tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2598394965719309416.post6165660702344287694..comments2023-06-07T10:06:03.854-05:00Comments on My Journey with Inflammatory Breast Cancer: Looking BackAshleigh Rangehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13429350900255692590noreply@blogger.comBlogger27125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2598394965719309416.post-57561038953602488952015-09-04T10:26:30.789-05:002015-09-04T10:26:30.789-05:00Brad, you are an extraordinary writer. Your words ...Brad, you are an extraordinary writer. Your words and descriptions flow so smoothly, as if God himself is writing. Bless you and bless your sons. So sorry for your loss.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2598394965719309416.post-63123167110116475202015-08-19T22:28:17.012-05:002015-08-19T22:28:17.012-05:00Continuing to pray for you and your boys. Can'...Continuing to pray for you and your boys. Can't even tell you how much yalls story has touched my life. God bless you! Lauren Fisherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17384138520991954932noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2598394965719309416.post-18665378771527464002015-08-18T13:43:06.978-05:002015-08-18T13:43:06.978-05:00Brad,
your "sharing" is lovely! It give...Brad,<br /><br />your "sharing" is lovely! It gives a glimpse into the solid, incredible marriage that made up the reward for Ashleigh for simply being a devoted child of God. The glimpse you share with us, shows us what a Christian marriage is meant to look like. Thank you, Thank you, Thank you for continuing to be the godly man Ashleigh brought into her life, thereby brought into our lives by association. YOU are loved by many and repected by ALL!<br />Terry Howerton <br />(Sabrina's Mom)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2598394965719309416.post-54634714088523766212015-08-12T15:55:36.003-05:002015-08-12T15:55:36.003-05:00Brad - enjoy reading what you write, and you great...Brad - enjoy reading what you write, and you greatly underestimate the living testimony you are documenting. Christianity has been modeled on this blog by both of you.<br /><br />Moreso, I look forward to being there to listen in person or via phone any time day or night. <br /><br />Chad KingChad Kingnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2598394965719309416.post-19665359574459176832015-08-08T19:08:42.631-05:002015-08-08T19:08:42.631-05:00Wow! Chills! You are a beautiful writer. Please...Wow! Chills! You are a beautiful writer. Please keep sharing. Praying for you and your boys. Tonyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03785959511012752988noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2598394965719309416.post-19946748730026953792015-08-06T21:17:04.673-05:002015-08-06T21:17:04.673-05:00Thank you Brad for sharing your innermost thoughts...Thank you Brad for sharing your innermost thoughts and feelings. The insight you give the readers here on Ashleigh's and your journey and now your journey helps us to understand and grieve with you and pray for you. With this knowledge we can be a blessing to others who are in the same place you are now. Hugs and prayers Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08057976015865894921noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2598394965719309416.post-28290753078269025912015-08-05T19:27:32.593-05:002015-08-05T19:27:32.593-05:00Keep Writing HereKeep Writing HereHollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12290777054561697148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2598394965719309416.post-86025222570860104312015-08-05T13:52:57.292-05:002015-08-05T13:52:57.292-05:00Thank you for continuing to post. You and sons ar...Thank you for continuing to post. You and sons are in my thoughts and prayers. May Jesus continue to be your greatest confidant, in this difficult time. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2598394965719309416.post-31917447701117758632015-08-05T09:45:53.108-05:002015-08-05T09:45:53.108-05:00Thank you for sharing your raw feelings and those ...Thank you for sharing your raw feelings and those special stories. Your words help others as they help you grieve and heal. Please keep sharing - it keeps Ashleigh's memory alive.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2598394965719309416.post-31494690337254654092015-08-03T22:56:07.206-05:002015-08-03T22:56:07.206-05:00You and your sweet family and lovely wife have bee...You and your sweet family and lovely wife have been in my thoughts and prayers. I pray that your boys will always know how much they were loved by their mother and you. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2598394965719309416.post-80701098485225523982015-08-03T07:19:13.907-05:002015-08-03T07:19:13.907-05:00Brad, you are a beautiful writer, and we are pleas...Brad, you are a beautiful writer, and we are pleased to be your outlet during this time. Having experienced a loss recently, I can assure you that "A Grief Observed" will serve you well. I also recommend "The Year of Magical Thinking" by Joan Didion. I read it about 6 months post, and it was incredibly helpful to understand the range, frequency and inconsistency of emotions I was feeling.<br /><br />Peace be with you,<br />Kristen HectorKristenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03274262478247266691noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2598394965719309416.post-59767489035687505152015-08-02T20:37:50.315-05:002015-08-02T20:37:50.315-05:00* devastating, not desisting. * devastating, not desisting. ElleMurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01585481665526225076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2598394965719309416.post-19789976468136875892015-08-02T20:35:59.604-05:002015-08-02T20:35:59.604-05:00Sobbing. I have been reading this entire blog, fr...Sobbing. I have been reading this entire blog, front to back - and reading snippets of it out loud to my husband, who is an oncologist and researcher in the Dana-Farber/Harvard system. I want to thank you so much for having been willing to share your experience with others, as it is so valuable - I even wonder if you would want to look into publishing it. For physicians, it offers great insight into what their patients might be thinking and how they might be processing information. For physicians' wives (like me), it puts a very human face on the career that so often robs us of evenings, weekends, vacations, and companionship (I myself am a big blogger and over-sharer ... but I'm never online the rare weekends my husband is around, so I think you're spot-on with your assessment of why people blog). For Christians, honestly especially for me this was a very compelling read. I didn't grow up in the church and I struggle *a lot* with what I see as the incompatibility of the severe and nearly universal human suffering and pain, and faith. It was really good for me to see that someone who considered herself to have previously been fairly sheltered from such suffering, but who clearly went through one of the most extreme forms of it imaginable, could maintain her faith and do so with such beauty and heroism even in the face of such repeated and desisting setbacks. It's definitely a story that will forever shape my faith journey, and forever enter my mind every time I struggle with these questions. It's funny because I don't know if Ashleigh and I would have really clicked in real life... I have 100% respect for those uber-perfect uber-driven people but whereas she describes herself as having succeeded because of her drive (which I do doubt... you can tell from her writing that she's quite bright) I feel like I succeeded in spite of my lack thereof :) Staying home with my kids is about all I can manage on my plate, at least with a crazy-busy husband, and my contribution to our finances is purely because my blog (which I do for fun) has been moderately successful. But... I just love her. And wish so much I could meet her, or will meet her soul someday. Although I don't often pray for things (really only out of desperation) because I remain skeptical of the "power of prayer," I will definitely be praying for you and the boys, for healing, health, and happiness as you continue your journeys. ElleMurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01585481665526225076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2598394965719309416.post-86905902858263042842015-08-02T11:22:28.158-05:002015-08-02T11:22:28.158-05:00Your writing helps not only yourself but others st...Your writing helps not only yourself but others struggling with the same issues. Thank you for sharing and helping. Terriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06488319233186288232noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2598394965719309416.post-69310895970287444052015-08-01T13:25:09.327-05:002015-08-01T13:25:09.327-05:00I hope even if you choose to stop writing (please ...I hope even if you choose to stop writing (please don't), you will still keep the blog up to help IBC sisters.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2598394965719309416.post-38700903811391981592015-08-01T11:10:26.267-05:002015-08-01T11:10:26.267-05:00Brad, please continue to have Ashleigh live on in ...Brad, please continue to have Ashleigh live on in your thoughts, stories, memories, and through the boys. I will continue to live out my life as Ashleigh saw it for me and appreciate whatever time I am given just as she did. <br />ShariAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2598394965719309416.post-30182792176404443362015-08-01T10:05:45.637-05:002015-08-01T10:05:45.637-05:00Hi Brad... wow what a testimony. I am Allison Louk...Hi Brad... wow what a testimony. I am Allison Loukanis, Terry Arnold's sister in law. Your blog made me cry. It was beautiful. Thank you for posting. Allison ( I'm gonna post as anonymous cause I loathe these hoops that these blogs make us jump thru for posting.)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2598394965719309416.post-1253941462777022482015-08-01T05:35:23.776-05:002015-08-01T05:35:23.776-05:00Thank you for sharing your thoughts - your authent...Thank you for sharing your thoughts - your authenticity, how real and how raw is appreciated. I hope you continue the blog. The Gala is sure to be a fantastic event and will make Ashleigh proud.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2598394965719309416.post-53950053055035987922015-07-31T20:33:12.667-05:002015-07-31T20:33:12.667-05:00Brad...bless you and your sons. You share as long...Brad...bless you and your sons. You share as long as you need to. You'll know when it's time to stop. Your story of Ashleigh's hug of Someone on the other side of the bed reminded me of my own experience the night my husband died unexpectedly. I struggled so to help him, to revive him and cried out to God for help. There was a touch on both of my shoulders (I thought that EMS had finally arrived), and when I turned to tell them what happened, no human was there. But, I know Who was, and am thankful. Comfort to you in the hours and days ahead. There will be days that you take a step forward, two or more backward perhaps. There will be days in which you take great strides. But, He is faithful. He will be there. Always.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2598394965719309416.post-7188809842137552292015-07-31T16:29:13.222-05:002015-07-31T16:29:13.222-05:00You are a beautiful soul and Ashleigh was so lucky...You are a beautiful soul and Ashleigh was so lucky to be loved by you. Forget engineering, you're also an excellent writer! The IM loves you so much and can't wait to see you at the Gala! Libyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16162234953637598421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2598394965719309416.post-54107815413310485602015-07-31T15:55:01.732-05:002015-07-31T15:55:01.732-05:00Please continue to share with us.. even if it gets...Please continue to share with us.. even if it gets to every 6 month updates on you and the boys. So many people still care about you all. <br />God Blessgraywolffhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16795851259012516964noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2598394965719309416.post-53963038925061299582015-07-31T15:38:49.907-05:002015-07-31T15:38:49.907-05:00Thank you for sharing your thoughts, Brad. I still...Thank you for sharing your thoughts, Brad. I still think about you and your family often. We're all still here, and we'll keep listening as long as you keep talking. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2598394965719309416.post-41795970066343422052015-07-31T15:23:22.508-05:002015-07-31T15:23:22.508-05:00I thank you for sharing your thoughts and your gri...I thank you for sharing your thoughts and your grief. It is a gift to me as I process my own grief, and struggle to find a new life and a new definition of myself. I prayed for your family throughout Ashleigh's illness, and used your journey to help me keep my problems in perspective, and find gratitude. I pray that you continue to heal and find peace, and that eventually the joys outweigh the sorrows. Ingridhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04607197948755525375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2598394965719309416.post-5373871598169686672015-07-31T10:11:41.707-05:002015-07-31T10:11:41.707-05:00Brad, Share as long as you feel compelled to share...Brad, Share as long as you feel compelled to share and be very patient with yourself. Grief lingers and will hit you when you least expect it, as I experienced that with the loss of my dad recently. The fact is losing someone as significant to you as Ashleigh will likely change you forever. Although life will be different, that's OK. What beautiful final memories you had with her...cherish them. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2598394965719309416.post-17786937522351475522015-07-31T07:31:51.955-05:002015-07-31T07:31:51.955-05:00Brad, You're doing exactly what Ashleigh would...Brad, You're doing exactly what Ashleigh would have hoped... working on continuing your life and loving your sweet boys. Those last 2 memories you shared bring me to tears because they demonstrate that even if she wasn't "with it", she was still there with you in those moments. And I'm confident going forward that you'll continue to experience moments where she is with you. Even if heaven is more distant, she'll find ways to be there with you. <br />LisaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com